I'm taking a turn at the advice game.

So about 8 months ago my girlfriend's mother kicked me out of their house and told me I was never to see or talk to her daughter again. Well, obviously we still see each other sometimes (for maybe ten minutes) and we're still together. But she's not doing anything besides talking to her mom... she doesn't fight for me. Our one year was on the 7th and we didn't do anything at all.

I don't want to end it with her because she's honestly my other half and when we are together I am so happy... but we can't live like this. Her mom hates her, she hates her life and misses me, I miss her and hate her mom... so we're all unhappy and nothing is happening.

How do I get her to stand up? She came out, now be proud!

She makes me feel ashamed to be gay some days. And I know she feels ashamed most days, too.

First of all you need to respect her mother's wishes on throwing you out, and to say you hate her mother is very disrespectful towards her. You need to understand that it is just as hard for her mother as it is for the two of you. Finding out you have a gay child is very heart breaking, and it takes time to adjust to. Most of our parents were raised to not accept homosexuality as a life style( patience is a virtue).

How do you know that she does not fight for you? She has know her mother all her life and knows how to deal with her in ways mom can understand, so yes you may have to be put on the back burner at times i know that hurts and sucks but it is part of our life style at times. For her standing up will take time you need to look at the whole picture im sure you to are not quite able to stand on your own two feet yet its hard for me at times.I know when i finally told my parents my mother changed the telephone # and locks to house and had nothing to do with me for about a month and each parent just like each of us take our own time to come around and see the lite not saying she will but sooner or later it does become easier and maybe she can learn to tolerate it.

If you truely love her like you say you do all you can do is be there and give her the support she needs when she asks for it. You need to be carefull with this not to push her to much you may push her away all together.

Waiting is the name of the game now.

You have to talk to her about it, express your distaste in regards for how you feel she is not sticking up for you. You're in a relationship half the battle is getting comfortable with them as well as expressing things you may not want to express. And if you are, if you find that either of you is trying to get one or the other to do something they may not be ready for then you have to think is it or will it be damaging to force an issue. Start a conversation with her even though it may seem impossible, make it possible. You're in a relationship and you wouldn't be in one if you honestly didn't feel connected to this person. Just remember that some times connection may not be enough, acceptance, understanding and over all willingness to be the punching bag just might make you stronger and your relationship a lot tougher to break down.